Wedding Budget Q&As

Answers to who traditionally pays for what, who pays for whom, and other issues of wedding finances.

Q: Eleven months ago, my ex-fiancé broke our engagement and refuses to return the ring—even though I've asked her several times. I don't understand why she would want to keep a symbol of a failed relationship. Should she return the ring? 

A: Ethically, since she broke the engagement, she should return the ring. If you called it off, however, then she would not be expected to do so. Unfortunately, many state laws dictate that an engagement ring is a gift and the property of the person who receives it, so she has no legal obligation to give it back. Obviously, she is not thinking of the ring as a symbol of any kind, and my guess is that she expects to profit from it financially, which may have already happened. I'm sorry for your heartbreak and disappointment, but, trust me, you will look back on this one day and be very grateful that you never walked down the aisle with this woman — especially after you've met that special someone who will give you the kindness, care and love you deserve.

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My question is: if renting a house for the brides family are we expected to pay for the grooms family? One 6 bedroom house will take care of our family, the grooms family would require another another 4 bedroom and then his attendants, or do they pay for their own????? Help! If I could get a response ASAP that would be awesome.