Q: I want both my maid of honor and matron of honor to feel special at my wedding. What is the difference between maid of honor and the matron of honor and what are the responsibilities for each?
A: The only difference is that the matron of honor is a married sister, friend or relative while the maid of honor is a single woman. There are no set responsibilities for each—basically, the matron of honor and maid of honor should share in the activities usually designated for the maid of honor. These include planning the bridal shower, helping to address wedding invitations, dress shopping, organizing fittings for the other bridesmaids, and any other pre-wedding tasks where assistance is needed.
On your wedding day, both can feel special by sharing some of the rituals. Before the ceremony, they can help you dress. For the processional, consider having them walk down the aisle together. During the ceremony one can hold your bouquet while the other takes charge of the ring and both can certainly give readings. At the reception, why not ask each to give a toast following the best man's? I am sure that they will appreciate your concern and thoughtfulness and feel honored to be such an important part of your wedding.