Q: I have invited my 10-year-old cousin to be in my wedding party. She is too old to be a flower girl, but I am not sure if she should be considered a "junior" bridesmaid. What is the standard age for a junior bridesmaid, and are there any special responsibilities I should give her?
A: A junior bridesmaid is between the ages of 8 and 16, and her only responsibility is to attend the ceremony rehearsal and walk in the processional. She is not expected to give showers or contribute to the bride's gift from the attendants, unless her parents choose to do so for her. Also, she need not stand in the receiving line.
You can position your junior bridesmaid before the maid of honor in the processional, whereas flower girls walk just before the bride. Try including your cousin in as many pre-wedding activities as her age allows. She is just as much a part of your wedding party as your other attendants and will appreciate the special attention.