10 Marriage Firsts Every Newlywed Experiences

Author Sharon Naylor shares expert newlywed advice to keep you happy long after your wedding day.

5. First Time You’re Asked, “So When Are You Having a Baby?”

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Why It’s Big

Depending on who this comment is from, you'll have different reactions. If it's from your best friend, who's blissed-out with her own newborn, you won't take offense. If it's a comment from your great-aunt, who had her first baby when she was 20 years old, it's just a generational thing. If the comment is from a competitive coworker or sibling, things can get tense pretty quickly.

How to Deal

Think of the baby chatter as them wishing you a happy blessing, and a compliment that this person thinks you'd be great parents. Don't make it a problem by overreacting to the topic itself, assigning all kinds of pressures and judgments that reflect how you feel about having a baby. It's a common mistake for newlyweds to interpret too much from these kinds of comments. Just say, "We're not quite there yet, but you'll know very soon after we do!" Then, move on to the next subject.

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