How to Talk About the Wedding Budget (Without Bickering)

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It strikes when I least expect it: After a romantic, four-course meal; while I'm checking my news feed on Facebook; when I spot that Michael Kors bag I can't afford; during the meditation portion of yoga, when my eyes close and I finally give myself permission to relax and let go.

As I've gotten deeper and deeper into my wedding planning and it's time to select vendors, I notice that a budget-induced panic seizes me from behind and puts me in a chokehold during the strangest moments, when I'm not even consciously thinking about it. As a result, I find myself constantly bringing up the "B" word with a very perplexed Jason, my fiancé, who is much better at compartmentalizing subjects and doesn't understand why I'm thinking about which photographer we should choose while watching Planet of the Apes. Even though I try to rationalize that I know we can afford our budget, sometimes it just feels plain exhausting to be engaged.

I'm not alone: Every engaged or recently-married girlfriend I talk to seems to have had blowouts every time they communicate with their soon-to-be-spouse about money they spend on the wedding. I decided it was time to call in reinforcement: Farnoosh Torabi, a personal finance expert and fellow bride-to-be getting married next June in Philly! 

Top 10 Hilarious Things My Fiancée Says

Once I discovered @ThatsMyFiancee on Twitter, I knew I had stumbled upon a comedic goldmine. Chris Winfield, the brave groom behind the account, documents his wedding-planning experiences with light-hearted, refreshingly honest messages that are 140 characters or less. "If the wedding is going to be fun, the planning should be also," Chris said. Here, he shares 10 exclusive things he's learned so far (Editor's Note: To my fiancé Jason, don't get any ideas!).

Madonna Apologizes to Hydrangeas

Last week, when a fan presented Madonna with hydrangeas, she was caught on camera telling a friend, "I absolutely loathe hydrangeas. He obviously doesn't know that."

Well, now Madonna has issued an apology to hydrangeas... in her own special way.

We don't really know what to say about this video... I guess remember to bring her roses next time??

We're curious: Which flowers do you hate? And which flowers do you  love? Tell us in the comments!

—Kristen O'Gorman Klein

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