To Wait or Not to Wait: The Great Baby Debate

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge delighted many royal watchers by announcing that they're expecting a child together. When the news broke, media outlets and civilians alike reacted with phrases like "Finally" and "It's about time!" One would assume that William and Kate have been married for ages; yet they tied the knot just over a year and a half ago. If you're reading this and you're a newlywed, you may also relate to being bombarded with questions from well-intentioned loved ones, eager to know when you're having your first baby.

Like many other couples, Wills and Kate reportedly mapped out their baby timeline prior to saying "I do." Just two months after getting engaged, Ms. Middleton told the press that, "I hope we'll be able to have a happy family ourselves. [The royal family has] been great over the years, helping me with difficult times, and we see a lot of each other, and they're very, very dear to me."

There are many factors that can go into the decision of starting a family. Couples may hope to conceive before reaching a certain age, while others leave it up to chance on their honeymoon or hold off until certain career goals are met. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the average age of a first-time mom is 25.4. But when is the right time to have kids, exactly? In an effort to gain more insight, I turned to the all-knowing Facebook and posted a status asking, "After your wedding, how long did you wait (or will you wait) to have kids?"

10 Songs to Play at Your Bridal Shower

Each week, we feature music recommendations from Scratch Weddings, the nation's leader with the best wedding DJs at affordable prices. This week's post comes from DJ Lil Ray. The Brooklyn-based DJ creates her infectious musical blend of with a mix of crowd favorites and unexpected hits. Since relocating to NYC from her native Atlanta, DJ Lil Ray has blown up: opening for acts like M.I.A. and Childish Gambino, spinning at SXSW and the GenArt Film Festival and making regular DJ appearances at NYC's hottest night spots. Lil Ray loves to spin weddings because of the special energy of a festive crowd. "Weddings are so much fun! It's great playing to a big group of happy people who are all there to celebrate together."

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The bridal shower — the better-behaved older sister of the wacky hat-wearing bachelorette party — is an opportunity for a bride to relax and enjoy this exciting time. Like a wedding, a well-planned bridal shower takes a lot of work — which is thankfully left up to close friends and family, so the bride-to-be gets to just show up and enjoy (lucky you!).

December 10th

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Tip of the Day: Display a sign at the reception with all of the meaningful dates in your relationship: when you met, when you got engaged, and, finally, when you tied the knot! After the wedding, you can hang it up in your home as a focal piece. You can also use the sign as a fun prop when taking anniversary photos. 

Plus, check out A Sweet Anniversary Surprise.

Here are more "Love Story"-themed props, courtesy of Bartlett Pair Photography:

 

 

Etiquette Q&A: “Is It Acceptable to Only Serve Cocktails & Desserts?”

Q. “My fiancé and I are planning a wedding for about 150 guests, and half of them will be from out of town. Is it appropriate to have a cocktail hour and dessert reception? Or should I provide a full meal?”

A. It’s perfectly fine to have a cocktails and dessert reception. And I wouldn’t worry about not having enough food to feed your guests. Believe me, I’ve been to many a wedding where the cocktail hour fare far outshone the reception dinner! It’s all about offering fabulous, abundant food at stations as well as passed hors d’oeuvres.

Think pasta bar or a Tuscan table filed with Italian breads, cheeses and olives. Offer comfort foods (a surefire crowd pleaser) like mac ‘n cheese, French fries, mini burgers and grilled cheese sandwiches and shot glasses filled with soup.


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If your budget allows, you can have a made-to-order sushi station or a seafood bar featuring lobster, shrimp, oysters and salmon.

Avoid Holiday Weight Gain!

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Eggnog, cocktails, Christmas cookies, cakes, hot chocolate, holiday parties, dinners... 'tis the most festive (and my personal favorite) season of the year!

Our social calendars are beyond full, and with so much more on our plates, it’s easy to let your exercise routine be the first thing to go out the window (along with your waistline).

But please, refer to line one of this article (re: excess amounts of decadent food and drink)! It is at this time of year that I believe it is most important to stay on top of that workout regimen — not only to combat the holiday weight gain but to beat stress and not feel guilty about all the indulgences (yes, I encourage you to soak it up; it only comes once a year). So enjoy it, just learn how to navigate so you don’t roll into the new year at your heaviest (not a good start).

Plus, don’t you want to look and feel your best at all your holiday parties? That’s right ladies, feel empowered to break out that firey red dress! And for the men, bulging guts are not jolly unless your name is Santa.

The Holidays: How to Avoid a Family Feud

‘Tis the season to be merry… except when unwelcome family feuds intrude upon all the merriment! Newlyweds especially often have to deal with unhappy parents and in-laws questioning their plans on where to spend the holidays. Do you visit his family, her family, both families? And how long do you stay? We asked Deanna Brann, Ph.D, an expert on mother- and daughter-in-law relationships and the author of Reluctantly Related: Secrets to Getting Along With Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-Law for some sage advice.

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According to Dr. Brann, couples want to please everyone but typically end up pleasing no one and feeling awful about it. And parents often ignore that now, as a married couple, you and your spouse want to create your own family traditions. What to do? Here’s what Dr. Brann suggests to help you navigate the holidays:

► Before even considering your different families and what they want, sit down with your spouse and decide what the two of you want to do. (This is not about doing what your families want you to do, but instead, ask: If you could do anything you want, what would it be?)

December 6th

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Tip of the Day: Love the Little White Dress look that some brides are choosing for their big day? If you can't bear to part with a full-length gown, consider wearing a short, all-white stunner at your rehearsal dinner, engagement party, or bridal shower, instead.

Search for budget-friendly styles at department stores you may already shop at, such as Ann Taylor, to make use of coupon codes and reward cards. Or, look online and check RetailMeNot.com for free shipping codes. After the holidays, you can even use gift cards from your favorite stores to score that LWD for next to nothing, or even free!

Plus, check out more Short and Sweet Rehearsal Dinner Looks.

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