Wedding Invitation Q&As

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Asking for Cash Wedding Gifts

Q: One of our goals is to buy a home soon after we marry, and we would like to use whatever money we receive at our wedding as a down payment. What is the proper invitation wording for a “greenback” wedding? —Omaha, Nebraska

A: There is no proper wording for such a wedding, or for any type of cash request on a wedding invitation. The only way to let guests know of your gift preference is by word of mouth. Friends and family members can inform invited guests that you are planning to buy a home and would prefer cash, but they should graciously add that any type of gift will be greatly appreciated. And don’t bank on getting enough money at your wedding for a down payment: Couples often overestimate how much cash they’ll receive. Chances are you will have to do quite a bit more saving yourselves before reaching your goal.

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I have a few friends who included a Save the Date magnet in their wedding announcements. It was pretty helpful - I attached the invitation to my fridge using the magnet provided, and then on the day of the wedding, when I was scrambling to get out the door on time, I was able to quickly locate the invitation for directions. For my Save the Dates, I did a postcard. However, I still like the idea of including a magnet in the actual invitations. My invitations will have a pocket for the RSVP card, and I was thinking of including a magnet of my fiance and I there. Would this be OK, and if so, what would be the proper wording on the magnet at this point - would "Save the Date" still be OK?