Wedding Invitation Q&As

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Q: We plan to hold a day-before barbecue and a post-wedding brunch during our weekend-long celebration. Is it OK to enclose the invitations to those events in our wedding invite? —Sarasota, Florida

A: Yes, it’s perfectly fine—and think of the money you’ll save on postage! If you plan to ask the same guests to the barbecue, wedding and brunch, then combine your pre- and post-wedding events on one invitation and enclose it with the wedding invitation. And you can make things even easier by using one RSVP card for all three events. Here’s an example:

Please respond by June 5th
M______________will attend the wedding
M______________will attend the barbecue
M______________will attend the brunch

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I have a few friends who included a Save the Date magnet in their wedding announcements. It was pretty helpful - I attached the invitation to my fridge using the magnet provided, and then on the day of the wedding, when I was scrambling to get out the door on time, I was able to quickly locate the invitation for directions. For my Save the Dates, I did a postcard. However, I still like the idea of including a magnet in the actual invitations. My invitations will have a pocket for the RSVP card, and I was thinking of including a magnet of my fiance and I there. Would this be OK, and if so, what would be the proper wording on the magnet at this point - would "Save the Date" still be OK?