Q: Our photographer suggested that preprinted thank-you notes accompanied by a wedding photo would ease the burden of responding to all the gifts. Is this appropriate?
A: Yes and no. It is never acceptable to send a preprinted thank-you note - a handwritten, personal message from you and your new husband, including a reference to the specific gift, is the least you should offer your guests for their time and expense. And while photos are nice mementos to include with your notes, it can sometimes take months to get them back from the photographer. Since all thank-yous should be sent to guests within three months of your wedding (and earlier is preferred), you should only take this route if your photographer can meet your deadline.