Wedding Etiquette Q&A: "Are we wrong to exclude kids from the bridal shower?"

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Q: My maid of honor is planning my bridal shower and we both agree that children shouldn’t be included. Are we wrong? And how do we let people know?

A: No, you're not wrong, unless you're planning a non-traditional shower that will include husbands, partners and families. But for the most part, bridal showers are for the grownups. (Little ones can become bored easily, especially if all those gifts don't include any toys for them!)

Have your bridal party address the envelopes to invited guests only, and spread the word that the gathering will be just for adults.

—Mary Clarke