At last! It’s a sunny day in NYC after tons of rain and too many gray, gloomy days. Could spring really be on the way? Well, in spite of the weather there have been quite a few bright spots this month. Along with my Fashion Editors, Naima and Maureen, I’ve seen a gazillion brand spanking-new, gorgeous wedding gowns that I promise, you will love! We spent a weekend in Chicago where designers showed us their latest creations, (love visiting the Windy City) and then zoomed home to walk and taxi all over NYC to view the newest looks from even more designers! You’ll soon see these dresses on the pages of Bridal Guide (look for our Sept/Oct and Nov/Dec issues) and right here on bridalguide.com.
In the meantime, results from BG’s Wedding & Engagement Survey came across my desk and it was fascinating to see how many of you plan to incorporate a lot of the bridal traditions into your ceremonies and receptions, i.e. not letting your groom see the gown before the ceremony (82%), bridal bouquet toss (86.5%), guest favors (82.4%) and so on. And, of course, before the wedding you and your fiancé will have a bachelor party (76.5%) and a bachelorette bash (75.4%).
This stat reminded me of a radio talk show I listened to just a few weeks ago on this very topic. The question was, if you heard that the bride’s fiancé had gone over the line at the bachelor party, would you tell the bride and do you think the wedding should be called off? Hmmm, pretty sticky topic. Some callers said they wouldn’t tell her, others said they would and she should call off the wedding because he was bound to cheat during the marriage. One guy wanted to know what “over the line” means (how ‘bout this fellas: picture your fiancé in the room and don’t do anything you wouldn’t want her to see!). And then there were a number of guys who said that the drunken, debauched bachelor parties weren’t for them. In fact, one spent a day golfing with his friends, another planned a dinner at a great restaurant and a groomsman told of a camping trip with his buddies where a game of paintball ensued (the highlight was all the guys blasted the groom at the end. “We had a blast!” he said.)
So, I’m curious, do you think a bride should be informed if her fiancé goes “over the line”? As a future bride, would you want to know and would you call off the wedding? And what is your guy planning for his party? Let me know, I’m sure there are a lot of opinions about this! And if you have any etiquette questions about your bachelorette bash, here are a few party pointers:
Who plans the bachelorette party? Usually it’s the maid of honor, the bridesmaids or the bride’s core group of friends—even if they’re not in the wedding party.
Can I tell my friends what I want without seeming pushy? Yes, if you’d like dinner and drinks at your favorite restaurant, singing at a karaoke bar or a mani/pedi party, let them know. It will make planning easier for them.
How much should I expect my friends to spend? It depends on what they can afford or wish to spend. Don’t expect a weekend in Vegas or a weekend cruise if they have student loans to pay, no job or an entry-level position or even other weddings to be in.
Will I need to pick up my own tab? Everyone usually chips in to cover the bride’s cost.
When’s the best time to have it? Two or three weeks before the wedding is ideal. Avoid the week before the big day—you’ll have plenty of other things to do!
Posted by Diane at 1:52 p.m.
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