Etiquette Q&A: "How Much Do I Have to Spend on a Wedding Gift?"

bride and groom with gift
Photo Credit: Evermore Photography

Q. What’s considered the right amount of money for a wedding gift? I’ve recently been laid off and can’t afford to give as much as I had originally planned, but I don’t want to come across as cheap, either.

A. There isn’t a golden rule or any set amount that’s considered appropriate for a wedding gift. Basically, you give what you can afford. With your job loss, it’s perfectly understandable that you can’t be as generous as you’d like. If writing a check makes you feel uncomfortable, then select an item from the couple’s registry list. They’ll be glad you were a part of their big day and will appreciate receiving a gift they can put to good use in their home.
 
—Diane Forden