Anita Chakra Burtty had a premonition that something extraordinary was about to happen: She was about to meet her future husband. So the Sydney astrologist decided to go all in and pay for an April wedding—more than enough time to fall in love with her would-be groom, who she expects to bump into around October or November. “It’s not going to be a huge issue if I don’t get married on that day, but I know that I will,” she told Channel Nine’s A Current Affair.
Her conviction is so strong, she’s already made major planning decisions, including buying her dress, meeting with wedding vendors and creating a beachside barbecue theme (hope her hubby likes wings). Most surprisingly, her loved ones fully support her decision. They’re going to make the trek from England to Australia to attend, and her best friend, Jeremy, even changed his wedding date (note: to a bride he’s already found) so that it wouldn’t coincide with hers. “I wouldn’t be a good friend to Anita unless I believed in her and supported her,” he said.
Burtty is a “single bridezilla,” a term that media outlets such as TLC’s “Say Yes to the Dress” and ABC News have used to describe a woman who isn’t “afraid to put the dress before the diamond, or the reception before the ring.” We all know someone who fits the mold: Relatives or friends who get engaged, then are married two months later in a beautifully-executed, incredibly elaborate affair (without a planner) as if by magic.
There’s nothing wrong with keeping a wedding binder stuffed in the closet, secretly (or not-so-secretly) browsing gowns, and participating in “not-engaged-yet” online forums safe from the glare of criticism. Some brides even do it for financial reasons, such as Kat Richter, a single woman planning her wedding, who told ABC that when it comes to skeptics, “I’m going to have the last laugh when I save a lot of money and still have a fabulous wedding.”
But what about the groom—don’t his preferences and wishes count, too? A wedding is an opportunity to reflect your union as a couple, and we can't help but think that planning everything without your spouse in mind diminishes part of the joy of getting married. Not to mention that we can’t imagine having to break the news to your six-month boyfriend that your nuptials are already set in stone. “Hopefully once he meets me…he won’t mind that I’m only a tiny bit insane,” said Burtty.
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