15 Ways to Make Your First Dance More Memorable

In the age of viral videos, “surprise” first dances are no longer very surprising. But that doesn’t mean your only other option is to stick with a traditional first dance for your wedding.

11. Do something besides dance

Who says your first dance has to be, well, a dance? Take a cue from this couple, whose Star Wars-inspired light saber battle went viral. Sure, it was set to music, and it was certainly choreographed — but the couple opted for sparring moves rather than typical dance moves, something clearly special and fun for them, which in turn made it fun for everyone else.  

12. Channel pop culture

Think outside the first dance box and choose a popular TV or movie theme song, or even a favorite Broadway number, for your music. You can stick with something romantic, like “I’ll Cover You” from the musical and movie Rent, something nostalgic and sentimental like the Cheers theme song, or something hilarious that’ll certainly get your guests energized and laughing, like The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air theme song. 

13. Incorporate musical instruments

And we’re not just talking about the ones your band is playing. Do either of you rock the guitar in your free time? Or do you have a close family or friend who plays an instrument? Find a way to incorporate that into your first dance, even if it’s as an accompaniment to the recorded song. Nisi has even seen bagpipes played during first dances at weddings she’s worked — as long as it’s meaningful to you, it’ll be memorable. 

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14. Go with the “snowball” method

If you and your new spouse aren’t super comfortable being the center of attention (or just think you’ll have reached your threshold by the time the reception rolls around), consider gradually inviting others to the floor during your first dance song. The two of you can have a special moment for the first minute of the song or so — just long enough for many couples — and then gradually invite others to occupy the dance floor. “As the song progresses…pull in parents, then other guests, so by the end of the song the dance floor is full,” says Culver. Not only is it a great way to minimize the attention on yourselves, but it’s also a perfect segue into the rest of the reception.

15. Preempt the dance with something else special

Lead into your first dance with a special, funny, or unique moment. Think: a video montage of your lives or a pre-recorded voiceover of your love story. Merkle’s clients often create a “Love Story” recording: Both the bride and groom separately record their versions of their relationship, from how they met to how they got engaged. Merkle scripts both versions together for a unique, recorded retrospection of the relationship — and it’s the perfect thing to play before the first dance. “I like [playing it] at that time because it brings focus to the first dance,” he says.  

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