15 Signs You're Too Obsessed With the Wedding

Surefire ways to know when you've crossed the line — and how to bring back the bridal bliss.
By: 
Sharon Naylor

6. You’re Too Obsessed If … You’re planning your own bridal shower to "make it easy on your friends."

You started off just sending a few images and ideas, but you’ve escalated to "I’ll just do it" or "I know what I want for the cake, so I’ll just order it." If your maid of honor and bridesmaids just look at you with blank stares and reply, "who are you?" then you know.

How to Dial It Down: Only give your bridal party crucial input (i.e. "I'd prefer not to have an outdoor party, since I'm allergic to bees and it'll be too hot in August). Your MOH and 'maids need to know all of the essential info so that they can plan a party you'll love. Certainly tell them who you'd like to include on the guest list, but leave the theme, color, menu, games, and other details up to them. This is the fun part, so don't steal their enjoyment. Just trust them.

Photo Credit: Caroline Tran

7. You’re Too Obsessed If … You want your bridesmaids and flower girls to get spray-tanned for your wedding day.

It's not a requirement that all of your attendants' skin tones match! Remember that you're not on "The Jersey Shore," here.

How to Dial It Down: Just boot this one from your thoughts, since it would be Bridezilla-ish to require your ladies to undergo pricey spray-tan treatments they might not be comfortable with. 

Photo Credit: Lindsey Tropf

8. You’re Too Obsessed If … You’re skipping girls’ night out so that you can watch wedding reality shows on your DVR.

There’s nothing wrong with watching and re-watching your favorite reality shows about brides! They’re filled with ideas and inspirations. Plus, it's rewarding to see the happiness of the bride and groom after they’ve overcome so much in their planning.  

How to Dial It Down: The key here is to make your friends a higher priority than anything on television. Plan relaxing nights out (or in) where you don't discuss anything wedding-related. Remember to still be the same friend you were before you got that shiny ring on your finger.

Photo Credit: François Dischinger

9. You’re Too Obsessed If … You’re having nightmares about your wedding every night.

Your definition of a nightmare: The cake has buttercream frosting when you asked for fondant.

How to Dial It Down: Most brides have dreams about their weddings, since it is important to them, but when you’re having night terrors about insignificant details, it's a telling sign you've gone too far. Create a time limit for the planning to help ensure a peaceful slumber. Stop at, say, 7 p.m. and fill your mind with happier concerns, like snuggling with your groom.

Photo Credit: Timecut Photo

10. You’re Too Obsessed If … All of your Facebook posts are about your wedding. 

Brags, worries, thinly-veiled swipes at your future mother-in-law – nothing is off-limits and your friends count is going down, down, down.

How to Dial It Down: Instead of venting where everyone can see, e-mail your maid of honor when you need a boost. It's fine to post the occasional happy photo or news update (your friends do enjoy sharing your joy!) but be sure to keep posting about other topics, like you did before you got engaged. Also don't forget to respond to friends’ posts with your Likes or comments.

 

Next: Read more warning signs ►