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Every married couple argues (at least, the ones in healthy relationships do). If you never bicker, it just means someone is swallowing their feelings, which could come out later on...and it's going to get ugly. When you do fight, never bring up an old topic you've already covered and cleared up. For example: "This is just like when you went out with the guys after work, without telling me!" If there's some sliver of a similarity between that issue and this current one, why knock him over the head with it? That's the definition of a dirty fight, which you just don't do with someone you love and value. It can actually be quite abusive, since your spouse never knows when you're going to hammer him with some old resentment you've been carrying around. If you use hurtful reminders as weapons, just to win, your marriage will begin to disintegrate.