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Wedding Budget Q&As

Answers to who traditionally pays for what, who pays for whom, and other issues of wedding finances.

By: Diane Forden, Editor-in-Chief

Q: My daughter is going to be a flower girl in my brother’s wedding, and the maid of honor asked me if I would like to help pay for the bridal shower. Am I supposed to make a financial contribution? 

A: No, you’re not. The bridal shower is the bridesmaids’ responsibility. They plan it and pay for it unless, of course, the bride’s mother also offers to chip in. The parents of the flower girl and ring bearer are only required to pay for their children’s attire, shoes and accessories and any travel or lodging expenses. Obviously, the maid of honor is not aware of the protocol, so I would politely decline any involvement and let your brother know about her request. If his fiancé hears any grumbling from her bridesmaids, she can set the record straight.

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Connie Ross replied on

My question is: if renting a house for the brides family are we expected to pay for the grooms family? One 6 bedroom house will take care of our family, the grooms family would require another another 4 bedroom and then his attendants, or do they pay for their own????? Help! If I could get a response ASAP that would be awesome.

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