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Are the rules different for a second wedding? Here's everything you need to know to remarry the right way.

Your marriage license

Married...with Children It is important to involve your kids from a previous marriage(s) in your wedding. After all, they'll be a part of your new union. Here's how: • Most children will jump at the chance to be a flower girl, ring bearer, junior bridesmaid or groomsman. Giving them these roles will make them an integral part of the event. • Trust your children with important responsibilities like greeting guests, handing out wedding programs or favors, and pointing family members out to the photographer. • Have your children join you at the altar, and exchange personally written vows that emphasize "new family" themes. —Maria Zukin

In general, the same application process you followed for your first marriage applies to your second, with one exception: You'll need the divorce decree from your previous marriage, or, if you're a widow/widower, a copy of your deceased spouse's death certificate. The new license cannot be issued without these important documents. Call your local county clerkr's office to find out the specifics.

Prenuptial agreements

Talk this one over with your lawyer—a prenup might be a good idea for many personal reasons. Maybe you have considerable wealth, own property that you want to keep in the family or are worried about the financial future of your children. Sure, it's a sticky subject, but someday you might be glad for the extra protection.

Premarital counseling

Many first-timers benefit from premarital counseling, and you might find it helpful, too—it could ease any fears you have about repeating past mistakes. Also, it will help you enter your new marriage with a better understanding of each other's needs and expectations. Find an independent professional who specializes in couples' therapy (try the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy) or seek help through your house of worship, which may provide this service.

The honeymoon

Don't even think about skipping this wonderful wedding tradition! But should you bring your kids? You're certainly not obligated to. Instead, consider taking them on a separate trip to a kid-friendly destination later on. It will be a great way to start connecting as a family.

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