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Newlyweds and other wedding veterans share advice about how they'd plan their weddings if they knew then what they know now. Is there something you'd do/redo? Submit your own advice.
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I'd RedoI Wouldn't do bridesmaids anymore. Mine were friends who I found out later on were not really too thrilled about being bridesmaids because they felt they were too old for it. If you do decide to have bridesmaids, let them choose their own gowns/styles. That would take the load off you as the bride. You shouldn't have to worry so much about how they're going to look like. It's your day, so let them wear whatever they want--as long as it's not white and not too revealing, it should be ok.
Posted By: Karen Michelson, married November 4, 2005
2006-03-21 11:35 AM
I'd Redo
I would take the time to look at all of the reception space. Our buffet was in an adjoining room and I never saw it (a server made a plate for us), the Christmas tree (with our wedding gifts) or any other part of that room. I would also assign someone to be in charge of my bouquet. In the confusion of leaving, it was left behind and I never saw it again. I'm sure one of the servers ended up with a beautiful white calla lilly centerpiece for their kitchen table.
Posted By: Jennie M., married December 31, 2005
2006-03-10 4:46 PM
I'd Do
We were married on New Year's and all of the flowers/decorations were still up for Christmas in the church and the reception site. It saved us tons of money on our flower budget. I'd definitely recommend getting married around a holiday like Christmas or Easter when the church is looking its best.
Posted By: Jennie M., married December 31, 2005
2006-03-10 4:46 PM
I'd Do
My fiance and I got engaged and our wedding was going to be 15 months away! We wanted both sides of the family and friends to get familiar with each other...seeing since our families had not met yet. I hosted an engagement party at my house and invited 30-40 close family and friends. Now everyone will be familiar with each other at the wedding and not be meeting for the first time and it be akward or uncomfortable. We are so glad we did it. One of my bridesmaids just loves my FH grandmother!! I know my mind will be at ease come the big day... I won't have to go around and introduce as many people! The party started at 4pm and ended at midnight! We did a potluck and had soooooo much food! It was very informal and just so relaxed... (well not as much for me as I was running around so much since it was my house)
Posted By: Nilita
2006-03-02 4:56 PM
I'd Do
Do get a wedding website. We had a destination wedding and a website announcing our details, accomodations and such really helped out our guests. There are lots of sites offering these sites for free: theknot.com and weddingchannel.com. Your guests just need to search for your names on the main page or you could send the links yourself to them via email. Neat!
Posted By: Caroline K, married December 30, 2005
2006-02-23 9:30 PM
I'd Do
I have to disagree with the shoes comment. Was torn b/w silk Vera Wangs and gold Jimmy Choos. They were the same price but I thought that the Jimmy Choos-- I could wear to parties etc. and if I stuck with the ivory shoes, they'd just go right in the preservation kit with my gown and veil--for my daughter to wear (I hope) twenty years from now. So I bought the gold pair. Now that I think about it, I want all my stuff from the wedding to actually be preserved. Now my sister is borrowing those shoes that I wore to my wedding and that makes me feel they aren't that special anymore. Wear matching shoes-- have your bridesmaids sign the soles as souvenir of your wedding day and keep them. You'll be glad trust me.
Posted By: Elise Grayson, married September 11, 2005
2006-02-22 9:40 PM
I'd Redo
I'd redo my hairstyle. I had an outdoor wedding last summer and having my loose curls down wasn't such a bright idea. I wish I had listened to my mother and did an updo! My gown also had a train which I refused to bustle for effect. Big mistake! My husband's footmarks were all over it and the guests also couldn't get near me afraid they will step on my dress and pull the skirt gown! I wore a designer and I thought that bustling it would minimize the effect of the beadwork. I should've opted for comfort more than anything else.
Posted By: Jane Higgins, married July 10, 2005
2006-02-22 11:41 AM
I'd Redo
For the wedding ceremony, I wore a pair of ivory silk Vera Wang shoes to match my gown. The shoes were very comfortable and looked great in the pre-wedding photos. But with my floor-length gown, I could have worn flip-flops and no one would have noticed! If you want to splurge on wedding shoes, make sure you'd wear them more than once. Also, assign somebody to look after your bouquet. I was so tired right after the party that I completely forgot where I parked my white Holland tulips.
Posted By: Marilen C., married December 27, 2005
2006-02-21 11:41 PM
I'd Do
I'd do your honeymoon a month or so after the wedding day. My husband and I are both from New York but we had a holiday (December) wedding in Asia. We only had a few days for the wedding and family parties. So, instead of hopping on a plane at once for our honeymoon, we spent a few more days with family and friends then went back to New York. We planned our honeymoon to Europe for Valentine's week. It was great because it gave us something to look forward to.
Posted By: Marilen C., married December 27, 2005
2006-02-21 11:41 PM
I'd Redo
I'd make sure I sampled more of the food! I sat down and ate most of my dinner, because I told myself I would beforehand. But I didn't think about the cocktail hour food. I should have asked a waiter to put together a plate of all the lovely hors d'oeuvres I'd spent so much time picking out. I missed out on some of them.
Posted By: Nisie, married November 4, 2000
2005-11-10 11:21 AM
