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Newlyweds and other wedding veterans share advice about how they'd plan their weddings if they knew then what they know now. Is there something you'd do/redo? Submit your own advice.
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I'd DoWe were married on New Year's and all of the flowers/decorations were still up for Christmas in the church and the reception site. It saved us tons of money on our flower budget. I'd definitely recommend getting married around a holiday like Christmas or Easter when the church is looking its best.
I'd Redo
I would take the time to look at all of the reception space. Our buffet was in an adjoining room and I never saw it (a server made a plate for us), the Christmas tree (with our wedding gifts) or any other part of that room. I would also assign someone to be in charge of my bouquet. In the confusion of leaving, it was left behind and I never saw it again. I'm sure one of the servers ended up with a beautiful white calla lilly centerpiece for their kitchen table.
Posted By: Jennie M., married December 12, 2005
2007-12-17 12:35 PM
I'd Redo
I wouldn't do bridesmaids anymore. Mine were friends who I found out later on were not really too thrilled about being bridesmaids because they felt they were too old for it. If you do decide to have bridesmaids, let them choose their own gowns/styles. That would take the load off you as the bride. You shouldn't have to worry so much about how they're going to look like. It's your day, so let them wear whatever they want--as long as it's not white and not too revealing, it should be ok.
Posted By: Karen Michelson, married November 4, 2005
2007-12-17 10:53 AM
I'd Redo
Plan out your songs in advance. The DJ just kind of did his own thing and played too much funky music in the beginning. The grandparents were unhappy and uncomfortable. Be sure to leave the hard-core partying toward the end. We went to a wedding soon after and they played anniversary music for the older couples and a few waltzes and polkas early on. It was soooo much more fun that way. Your friends will stay until the end, but the older adults usually want to retire earlier. Be considerate of them as well as your friends!
Posted By: Kayla, married November 2, 2005
2006-11-03 2:59 PM
I'd Do
Since my fiance and I planned everything for our wedding (everyone else contributed their ideas and opinions), we had the wedding that WE wanted. When my cousin was married the following year, she let her mother and future mother-in-law to help with the plannng. A few weeks before, she told me how unhappy she was with some of the things she didn't get to have or do. She was pretty miserable. My advice--It is YOUR wedding and not the mothers'!!! Don't be afraid to speak up!!!
Posted By: Kayla, married November 2, 2005
2006-11-03 2:59 PM
I'd Do
I have decided to let my attendants pick their own dresses. I chose the color I liked and there are 7 different styles to choose from. They are also varied in price, so the girls on a budget can still get a nice dress without stressing about it. We still have 7 months to go and my girls are excited right along with me!!
Posted By: Emily, married June 2, 1970
2006-11-03 2:52 PM
I'd Do
This week-end I was invited to a wedding.I am a friend of the groom .when I think of the amount of money spent for the reception it is a shame the quality of the food. The fruit appertizer had a worm on it.My entree of sirlon was tough.Table cloth and chair cover were dingy.Conclusion tasting are important my food was thrown in the garbage.Open bar was stock with cheap alcohol.Do consider the comfort of your guest I was placed at a table with strangers instead with people that I knew.Brides please don't get caught up in the moment remember this is bussiness you will pay dearly with your heart and with your money.
Posted By: Wedding diva
2006-07-31 5:14 PM
I'd Do
My husband and I had a very small private civil ceremony where only my parents, my sister, my best friend and a few of his close friends attended. I had no time to be nervous, and once the ceremony was over all I felt was overjoyed. It was actually really nice to be with only those closest to me, I didn't have to worry about a thousand details, get stressed out, or yell at my FH. So now we are doing a big ceremony for everyone later this year, and since the serious part is done we are having fun with it so far. We're writing our own humorous vows, I'm wearing white platform skechers,our 'kids' the dogs are included in the ceremony.
Posted By: Emily, married November 4, 2005
2006-03-24 10:37 PM
I'd Redo
I wouldn't serve food during cocktails. My guests were so full from the buffet treats that when it was time for the sit-down dinner, they barely touched the food! Maybe I should have gone with just drinks and peanuts or chips for cocktails. Saves money and would be good appetizers, too.
Posted By: Elaine Tsu, married October 11, 2005
2006-03-21 11:41 AM
I'd Do
Get married on a weekday. You'll know who your real friends are because they'll really take the day off to be with you. Plus it's eaasier to book the church and reception site.
Posted By: Elaine Tsu, married October 11, 2005
2006-03-21 11:41 AM
I'd Do
Have a party before the wedding day with both families. It's the perfect way to break the ice so come wedding day --your parents, your fiancé's parents and the whole group will be partying like crazy because they will feel like they've known each other for a long time.
Posted By: Karen Michelson, married November 4, 2005
2006-03-21 11:35 AM
