Community | I'd Do/Redo
Submit Your AdviceNewlyweds and other wedding veterans share advice about how they'd plan their weddings if they knew then what they know now. Is there something you'd do/redo? Submit your own advice.
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I'd RedoDon't fall for getting the dress that is on sale. I really wanted to keep the cost down for my wedding so I got a dress off the sale rack. It was big but the people at the store said that it would be no problem to alter though they didn't alter anything at the store. Now I have to pay another $300 for alterations that are actually hard to do and might not end up looking very good. I wish I had bought a new $400 dollar dress that just fit me in the first place!
Posted By: Fay Hughes, married undefined NaN, NaN
2008-03-21 4:36 PM
I'd Redo
I have thought of several things after our wedding day and the biggest issue was me listening to other people's opinions. We got married less than 4 months after getting engaged and I felt very rushed. I did not LOVE my dress. It was a pretty dress but a couple people, including my maid of honor told me not to wear big and pouffy and I really did want the princess fairytale gown that would have gone with our wonderful venue. As well, I really wish I had spent the money to have the dream pale pink peony bouquet I dreamed of, instead I did typical roses and it was average. Most of all, I wanted a beach wedding and got a lot of feedback that many of my family members could not fly out. I had to make a judgement call on whether to have all of my family or have the wedding I really wanted. I love my husband however seeing all the wedding shows, magazines and going to other weddings is just a reminder that my wedding was not eally what I wanted.
Posted By: Karla , married September 3, 2006
2008-02-15 7:26 PM
I'd Do
Do get a wedding website. We had a destination wedding and a website announcing our details, accomodations and such really helped out our guests. There are lots of sites offering these sites for free: theknot.com and weddingchannel.com. Your guests just need to search for your names on the main page or you could send the links yourself to them via email. Neat!
Posted By: Caroline K, married December 30, 2005
2007-12-31 11:46 AM
I'd Do
I'd do your honeymoon a month or so after the wedding day. My husband and I are both from New York but we had a holiday (December) wedding in Asia. We only had a few days for the wedding and family parties. So, instead of hopping on a plane at once for our honeymoon, we spent a few more days with family and friends then went back to New York. We planned our honeymoon to Europe for Valentine's week. It was great because it gave us something to look forward to.
I'd Redo
For the wedding ceremony, I wore a pair of ivory silk Vera Wang shoes to match my gown. The shoes were very comfortable and looked great in the pre-wedding photos. But with my floor-length gown, I could have worn flip-flops and no one would have noticed! If you want to splurge on wedding shoes, make sure you'd wear them more than once. Also, assign somebody to look after your bouquet. I was so tired right after the party that I completely forgot where I parked my white Holland tulips.
Posted By: Marilen C., married December 27, 2005
2007-12-21 12:26 PM
I'd Do
My fiance and I just recently got engaged, and we decided to mail out engagement announcements to all of our friends and family instead of trying to call them. By doing this your friends and family call you so you don't have to feel like you are rubbing anything in anyone's face. Also, we saved a lot of money on the announcement card by just going to a bookstore and buying some nice stationary sets and doing them on the computer. Printing out all of the stuff on the computer saved us a lot of money because we didn't have to hire a caligrapher and it was also a lot of fun putting things togeather. We are going to do our envelopes for our wedding invatations on the computer. A couple hundred dollars saved here and there on caligraphy you can use for other things.
Posted By: Jennifer, married December 17, 2005
2007-12-20 7:51 AM
I'd Do
My husband and I had a very small private civil ceremony where only my parents, my sister, my best friend and a few of his close friends attended. I had no time to be nervous, and once the ceremony was over all I felt was overjoyed. It was actually really nice to be with only those closest to me, I didn't have to worry about a thousand details, get stressed out, or yell at my FH. So now we are doing a big ceremony for everyone later this year, and since the serious part is done we are having fun with it so far. We're writing our own humorous vows, I'm wearing white platform skechers,our 'kids' the dogs are included in the ceremony.
Posted By: Emily, married November 4, 2005
2007-12-18 8:35 AM
I'd Do
We were married on New Year's and all of the flowers/decorations were still up for Christmas in the church and the reception site. It saved us tons of money on our flower budget. I'd definitely recommend getting married around a holiday like Christmas or Easter when the church is looking its best.
I'd Redo
I would take the time to look at all of the reception space. Our buffet was in an adjoining room and I never saw it (a server made a plate for us), the Christmas tree (with our wedding gifts) or any other part of that room. I would also assign someone to be in charge of my bouquet. In the confusion of leaving, it was left behind and I never saw it again. I'm sure one of the servers ended up with a beautiful white calla lilly centerpiece for their kitchen table.
Posted By: Jennie M., married December 12, 2005
2007-12-17 12:35 PM
I'd Redo
I wouldn't do bridesmaids anymore. Mine were friends who I found out later on were not really too thrilled about being bridesmaids because they felt they were too old for it. If you do decide to have bridesmaids, let them choose their own gowns/styles. That would take the load off you as the bride. You shouldn't have to worry so much about how they're going to look like. It's your day, so let them wear whatever they want--as long as it's not white and not too revealing, it should be ok.
Posted By: Karen Michelson, married November 4, 2005
2007-12-17 10:53 AM
I'd Redo
Plan out your songs in advance. The DJ just kind of did his own thing and played too much funky music in the beginning. The grandparents were unhappy and uncomfortable. Be sure to leave the hard-core partying toward the end. We went to a wedding soon after and they played anniversary music for the older couples and a few waltzes and polkas early on. It was soooo much more fun that way. Your friends will stay until the end, but the older adults usually want to retire earlier. Be considerate of them as well as your friends!
Posted By: Kayla, married November 2, 2005
2006-11-03 2:59 PM
I'd Do
Since my fiance and I planned everything for our wedding (everyone else contributed their ideas and opinions), we had the wedding that WE wanted. When my cousin was married the following year, she let her mother and future mother-in-law to help with the plannng. A few weeks before, she told me how unhappy she was with some of the things she didn't get to have or do. She was pretty miserable. My advice--It is YOUR wedding and not the mothers'!!! Don't be afraid to speak up!!!
Posted By: Kayla, married November 2, 2005
2006-11-03 2:59 PM
