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June 20, 2008
Bridesmaid Blues
As you all know, I'm in charge of throwing the bridal shower. I was really excited about the ideas I was putting together in my head and couldn't wait to get started. Here was my plan:
The Goal: To throw a shower that the bride would love by incorporating all her favorite things.
The Theme: A Lingerie Bridal Shower. Since she's not registered, I thought this would solve the gift issue.
The Location: My place. I figured if I'm hosting this, I might as well make it easy on myself.
The Vibe: I wanted it to be laid-back and informal because that's the kind of girl she is. She prefers small, intimate gatherings to large, grand ones.
The Decorations: Since she's always loved the Moroccan style, I decided I would decorate my place in purple, fuschia, gold and orange—really rich colors I know she loves. Then I was going to find a few nice colored glass serving dishes (that I would end up giving to her as a present because she loves the stuff) and colored utensils and plates that fit the whole scheme. I wanted fresh flowers, especially Lily of the Valley because I know it's one of her favorites, on the tables and anywhere I could put them. Before the hysteria started, I was even at the store looking at things I could use to accomplish this feel.
The Food: I wanted to create a buffet of bite-sized food and treats. One of her favorite sandwiches is the croque-monsieur, so I wanted to make a mini version of it as well as mini crepes. Her stepdad make this great paella that she loves too, and I would have put in a special request for him to make it. I also planned on making mini hummingbird cakes and red velvet cupcakes—two of her other faves.
The Entertainment: I've always wanted to include the groom in the games, but never had time to put them together. This time, I did have the time and wanted to create a DVD game that involved the groom—something similar to the Singing Bee show, except it would be the wedding version that incorporated popular wedding songs.
If all this sounds like a good time to you, well I'm sad to say, this won't be a reality. My plans were squashed last weekend when the bride called and asked if I could move the shower to a location that's easier for people to access. Since no one’s home is available for use, I need to track down a location, which won’t be easy since I’m not familiar with that area. I have the bridesmaids who live there doing some research, but the only thing that’s come up is kind of pricey. I surely can’t afford a $1,000 price tag—and if the other three bridesmaids pitch in…$250 each is still steep considering we also need to pay for the dress and there's still the bachelorette party.
I have to be honest. At first I got a little frustrated only because I'd had the above worked out on paper, and now I have to spend time redoing everything. I was also annoyed because it seemed as though everyone wanted to know what was going on and kept offering help and advice. I was starting to feel like a maid of honor failure. But what really bothered me was that everyone was going to her instead of just asking for my number and calling me with their questions. The girl has enough going on with all the major wedding planning. The last thing she needs to worry about is this shower.
Before this weekend I wasn't stressed at all. I had a plan and I knew what I was doing. Since then I've been one giant ball of stress. Every time I think about it, I get that sick feeling in my stomach and I hate it. I know people are just trying to help and only have the best intentions, but sometimes having too many people involved can be more stressful. At some point I’m going to have to put my foot down, take the control back and just make the decisions, regardless of what anyone thinks.
Posted by Lori at 10:54 a.m.
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