This week, I am dedicating my post to my trainer (and aunt), Bonne Marcus. For almost one year now, she has been training with me almost every week and has given me 100% of her time and energy when I need it, and I am forever grateful. I am more than halfway to my goal weight, and it wouldn’t have been possible without her endless support and perseverance.
1. She motivates me
I know I am lucky to not only have Bonne as my aunt but also as my trainer and fitness coach. Throughout this process, she has motivated me and inspired me to lose weight, get healthy, and feel better. She continues to motivate me each time we meet — and each and every day. Throughout the week, she sends me notes, asks how I’m doing, gives me advice, and so much more to keep me going.
Bonne is away on vacation this week, but her presence is still with me. I hear her voice in my head telling me “you got this” and “you can do it” every time I need a little reminder.
2. She gives me a full body workout that I couldn’t give myself
I thought I would be able to train and coach myself, but having a trainer is 100% worth it, no matter how expensive it may be. Bonne creates a whole body workout that targets every muscle group based on my body and the body I am looking to have. She changes up my workouts so that I don’t get bored, she gives me workouts I can do at home and at the gym for when I am not with her, and she offers advice on my cardio workouts by giving me treadmill and elliptical routines. She even gave me her spin shoes, which were the best present I ever received! Having a trainer is beneficial because they maximize your time in the best way to achieve your individual goals — and, I promise, they work.
3. She pushes me to be better than I was the week before
This is my favorite part about having a trainer — she pushes me because she knows I can do this, and having her behind me and wanting this for me is a really great thing. She sends me texts throughout the week, asking me what I’ve been eating and how my workouts are going. That alone pushes me, because I don’t want to have to reply that I just ate a cheeseburger and a milkshake or that I haven't worked out in four days. Bonne also weighs me every time I train with her, so that encourages me to be good throughout the week so I see results at my weigh in.
During our workouts, if I feel like I’m going to die or throw up, she tells me to keep going, because she knows I can. When I say my legs are going to fall off, she reminds me that they won’t, and when I want to quit, she reminds me of how far I’ve come. I couldn't ask for more than that.
4. She listens to me and finds ways to help me
Bonne is extremely knowledgeable in all areas of fitness and health and has taught me so much more than just how to do push-ups. When I had shin splints, she gave me exercises to help me. When something hurts me, she figures out why and how to make it better. She is always asking me how I’m feeling after my workouts and is looking for my feedback, which I absolutely love.
I told Bonne that my most-hated parts of my body were my lower stomach and my arms, and what’s great is that she gives me workouts that help improve these areas because she knows they bother me. She also customizes my workouts with my fiancé Rene so we are not always doing the same exercises, as there are ones that will be more beneficial for me and my body.
5. She wants to see me succeed!
Training with Bonne was one of the best things to ever happen to me. Although I’m not yet at my goal weight, I’m not too far off, and that wouldn’t be possible without her. Knowing what I do now about how beneficial and important a trainer is when it comes to meeting (and exceeding!) your goals, I absolutely would seek one out if I didn't have Bonne.
Take a look at this before and after — from right before I started my journey with Bonne on the left, and a work event in Manhattan last week on the right. I think she’s doing her job... don’t you agree?
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