Join us every Friday for our etiquette Q&A column, where editor-in-chief Diane Forden answers one reader's biggest etiquette question.
Q. My parents have been divorced for over 20 years, and although both have remarried they haven’t seen or spoken to each other in all that time. I’m worried about how they might behave toward one another at my wedding. What can I do?
A. If your parents haven’t spoken in all these years, I can certainly understand why you’re a bit nervous. I assume you have a good relationship with your mom and dad, so let them know how you’re feeling. I think it will help a great deal if they realize that you’re anxious about any animosity that may still linger between them. Tell them that you want them to enjoy themselves at your wedding and ask them not to let any anger or ill will rule their emotions. I promise, they won’t want to upset you and will no doubt make every effort to be on their best behavior. And try not to dwell on your parents’ situation. When your wedding day arrives, celebrate with your friends and family and focus on the fact that you’re marrying the greatest guy in the world.