In the midst of wedding planning and the countless decisions that must be made, it can be easy to forget about the most important thing in your life: your relationship with your fiancé. Date night gets waylaid by DJ interviews, brunch gets bumped by florist visits and suddenly you realize that you haven’t spent quality time together in months. Here are a few ways to stay focused on each other before saying "I Do."
1. Make your relationship the number one priority.
It sounds trite, but explaining what you need and what is bothering you is an essential component of every relationship. If you’re feeling like all of the focus is on your wedding and not on your relationship, tell your fiancé. Let them know that you love them and spend an evening out that has nothing to do with your upcoming wedding. This gives him/her a heads up and the ability to fix the situation before it turns into an argument.
2. Blow off steam together.
Wedding planning can be stressful as you balance your dreams, your budget and both families' expectations. Instead of bickering, go do something to shake off the stress. Hit the gym, go on a hike, play a game of pick-up soccer or go to a comedy club and laugh together. The shared experience will strengthen your relationship, and the resulting endorphins will make you both feel better.
3. Share the load.
How you handle your wedding planning will affect how you face challenges in the future as a married couple. Is one of you doing the majority of planning and feeling overwhelmed? Don't be afraid to ask the other partner to take over some of the planning or step in and do more household chores until the load is more balanced. If that isn’t a favorable option, then you should consider hiring a coordinator to pitch in so that you can better enjoy your time as nearlyweds.
4. Do something sweet.
Think of all those details you’re incorporating into your wedding to make it more personal for guests; in the same vein, you should try to do something sweet for your fiancé on a weekly basis. Small gestures such as including a note in their lunch or surprising them with flowers on a Tuesday will not only express how much you love them, but also set the tone for a wonderful newlywed life together.
5. Keep the big picture in focus.
Your wedding is an important life event but it is only one day in the lifetime that you will spend together. Every time you start to feel overwhelmed, think about that fact. You've found the love of your life and you're going to pledge your commitment to one another in front of all your friends and relatives. This makes any minor detail pale in comparison!
— Danielle Tate
As a successful entrepreneur, Danielle is a name change expert, on-camera personality, writer, author of a top rated Google newlywed blog and a bridal magazine contributor. It was a 13-hour struggle to change her name after getting married in 2005 that prompted Danielle to leave her medical sales career to develop and launch MissNowMrs.com. Wanting to save other brides countless hours of hassle, Danielle researched name-changing laws and rules in all 50 states to streamline and implemented her unique three-step, 30-minute online service. She is also the founder of MarriedNameGame.com, the original proprietary name change algorithm to determine your ideal married name, and GetYourNameBack.com, an online service dedicated to helping women get their name back after divorce.