“We have a rule that we only use our bedroom for sex and sleep, and we stick with it by banning anything electronic like TVs, computers and cell phones. Without these distractions we find more romantic things to do.”
—Neil, Los Angeles, CA
“We actually schedule times to make love. It sounds very unsexy, but if we don’t ‘pencil it in,’ it just doesn’t happen. Sometimes we simply cuddle or talk instead of having sex, but just making that time together keeps us connected and feeling good about our relationship.”
—Judy, NY, NY
“Shortly after we were married, we both started to let ourselves go, and coincidentally our sex life went downhill, too. We decided to change that by making an effort to look attractive for one another. It may sound trivial, but it’s really helped life inside the bedroom.”
—Meredith, Warren, NJ
“I initiate sex more often. When we were dating, I worried about feeling rejected if he wasn’t in the mood. But the feeling of commitment that comes with being married has changed all that. When he’s not in the mood, it’s okay—he’s still my husband. But more often than not he’s turned on that I’m taking the lead.”
—Melissa, Flushing, NY
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